Well...

I think I am destined to be alone...

Peter (bf) is moving 2 hours up island in less than 2 months for a new job. MEANING:

1) Too soon to move up island into a house with him as it would only be 3 months into our relationship

and

2) Too soon once again to have a long distance relationship (IMO)



I just cannot win AGAIN.... I mean we love each other yes... We know that for a fact...

Just it hurt so much hearing his friends this weekend say, oh yah you can find a place here, you can afford this on your own... and when you do get the place you can rent a room out to someone..





NO ONE mentioned ME and what I'M going to do when he's gone. Yeah sure it's not about me... I'm not asking for that... but what the hell do I do with a situation likethis?

I know he wont want me moving up with him.. because it's too soon.. but I CANNOT handle a long distance relationship.. I've tried it numerous times.. I need the hugs, loving, the feeling of being appreciated and what not.

Well, I wouldn't move up with him. Maybe you could work out. like.. come up to see him now and then and have a room their for you too. That might not be the happiest option but it certainly is one of the better ones.

Just don't move up with him and make it your * permanent * home, if he breaks your heart, where would you live?


Nobody is destined to be alone, and considering how you've dated numerous guys before, chances are you'll meet the right one sooner than most people do.

as youth said, no one is destined to be alone, i forgot your age, but, form what i've seen, you are verry nice, and, there is most deffnitly going to be more often than not, a guy that will fall inlove with you.


and, i wouldn't move in with him, seeing as it has only been 3 months, unless your are positive he is 'the one'.

i have never had to deal in some thing like this, seeming as i am only 16, lol. so, i think that the best advice ever given to me would be "go with what your gut feeling, for, more often that not, it is right."

i hope that every thing goes for the better for you.....

You're a young lass, follow your gut and see how it goes. Don't get all bent out of shape about his buddies, as you said the relationship is only 3 months old you have yet to enter their regular vocabulary.

I think you may be trying to hard at the relationship thing, almost like you are forcing it. Sometimes it helps to let life take the wheel a bit.

I get to attatched too soon in a relationship...

I only type like I'm trying too hard :P in person I am not like that at all

But anyways, I know he wont suggest moving.. I am not even going to mention it until he says "Oh hey, I found a job" then I'll figure it out...

Damn V, :hug: sorry to hear mate. Hang in there buddy. Glaives' right re your bf's mates, so try not to let that get to you (easy said i know, but try not to give it too much weight.) & I think you're right re the long distance or not moving with him thing. I mean part of me thinks he's a bit of a galah for not thinking of you even at the 3month mark it should be one of the first things any guy should at least consider when they have a gf. But that doesn't help you much. But I thing FBG's spot on, you will find someone, girls like you attract guys like flies, but problem is when you do that dud guys get attracted too. Hang in the buddy, & for what it's worth there's big hugs & thoughts from us here! :drunk:

hey, i have a great idea, my local radio station KRQ 93.7 and 104.7 in phoenix (state wide) they do this thing every tuesday, you e-mail them, they may or may not accept you, you call in, they get the story, call him, and find out if he is cheating, or if he really has a job......just a thought, srry to bring it up, who would cheat on a fish keeper????

If you cant do a long distance relationship then let him go. If you are meant to be together then something will work out for you. Enjoy the time you have until he goes. I know what you are going through, 'tis hard. :hug:

Too bad you are not down here girl I have a buddy who is a great guy who I have been trying to setup for years and until the past year he was not ready to settle down. Now that I am not able to visit much he lets me know that his time has come.

<fatherly advice>
I get the feeling that you feel a need to get into a serious long term relationship. If this is the case I think you better stop playing with the boys and find yourself a man, but in that case you had better be a woman. The trick is not be looking just be aware. Us guys, on average, take a little longer to mature than you gals. It took me until I was 30 to get into a good solid relationship and my other half is much younger than I yet it works.

If you are not ready to get serious then perhaps you need to leave guys out of your life and just have fun.

I do feel for you girl, however I also get the idea that you keep setting yourself up for this. The frequency is enough to make me think you are stuck in a cyclical pattern. If that was the case lay off the boys and just have fun with your girls a while and let life take the wheel a bit.

Big hugs for you girl, you're just at a difficult stage. You have to remember that you are still young and have many redeeming qualities so ease up on yourself.

I think I shall update...

The reasoning behind his not mentioning or talkinga bout this with me is because he is not too sure... he wanted to know for sure if he's moving or not before he talked to me... which is totally understandable...

I don't think he's cheating on me ... I actually went with him to check out jobs and he handed out resumes... So that's not a factor.. plus we spend enough time with each other so thats proof I'm the only one :P

But I appreciate everyone's opinions and thoughts :)

Oh and Glaive (lol)

He wants a serious AND long term.. I can tell when he calls me in during work and asks me when I can come drive over and say hi to his work (we're both car detailers, He is VOLVO's and I am Mercedes' and we're basically across the intersection from each other)

I made a vowe to myself... if this doesnt work out with Pete.. then I am NOT having stupid little (pardon my wording for this) f*ck AND CHUCKS... I am going to be patient...

I wasn't really looking for anyone when He came to me... I know things happen for a reason...




just like today.. i bought a red mandarin goby ... a 50$ fish and the chick at the till was a newbie.. so I got the fish and a 10$ brick of frozen food for 31 bucks BWAHAHAHAHAHHAHA SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh

Just go with the flow for a while and quit stressing so much!
I know, easier said than done, but the stress relief is worth it! :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Cool cool girl.